how to trust your man

How to Trust Your Man

Just do it.  In this day and age, it is easier than ever to cheat.  We have computers and cell phones that make everything about life easier.  Finding a woman to have an affair with is as easy as looking up a matchmaking site or using social media like facebook.  A woman can drive herself crazy worrying about what her man may be up to when he has his computer or cell phone turned away from her or in another room. 

I know from experience that men can and will cheat with these devices.  I was with a man for four years who had a secret myspace account, several secret email addresses, a secret photobucket account, a secret cell phone, a secret messenger handle, and a few online sex RPGs.  He downloaded porn and convinced me it was just spam that accidentally got downloaded.  He traveled to another state to be with at least one other woman on several occasions.  He emailed pictures of himself naked to other women.  The other women sent him videos of them pleasuring themselves.  He had a double life and he was a master liar.  He fooled me for four years.

So, yeah, it can be difficult to trust men, especially the ones who are hip with the latest technology.  But you cannot have a relationship without trust.

After my bad experience with that asshole, I came up with some reasonable expectations for a man to meet if he wanted to pursue a relationship with me:
1) There must be no lies between us.
2) Communication has to be open at all times.
3) We must know all of eachother's passwords.
4) Don't hide anything.

If you think about it, it's easy to follow those guidelines if you have nothing to hide.  Also, both partners must agree and get everything out in the open before getting serious.  If a man doesn't want to do any of the items on the list, then he must either be hiding something or he's not ready for commitment. 

Trust goes both ways, and you have to earn trust sometimes.  Just one little chink in the armor of trust can break down an otherwise solid relationship.  Chinks can be repaired, however, with honesty and love.

Trust is a choice and a leap of faith and an enormous investment in another person.