Why DO women say "I'm just a mom?" Because in today's American culture, feminism is the norm. Women are expected to have kids, a career, and manage a household. If a woman does not have a job because she chooses to focus on raising her kids, she is made to feel like she is a lesser person. There really are deadbeat moms out there, but there are also moms who are truly super dedicated to their kids. They have the ability to have a career, but they choose to put that on hold in favor of giving their kids more attention. These moms may say, "I'm just a mom," but the title "mom" encompasses so much more to these ladies. These fabulous mothers are everything to their kids: nurses, friends, playmates, a shoulder to cry on, and much more. These super engaged mothers make sure their kids have time to play outside, read them books at night, keep them fed, engage them in extra activities like sports, and most of all- mothers protect their children. They protect their kids' imagination, ego, heart, and health. All of this while trying not to be overbearing, because children need to spread their wings.
I'm of the opinion that stay-at-home moms should be given the title "professional mom" and a small salary while they are out of the job market, because they really are doing an important job: raising our future.
My own mom was a stay-at-home mom throughout most of my childhood. She kept on top of my medical conditions, made sure the doctor's paid attention to me, and kept me alive. I was a very picky eater, but my mom still managed to keep me fed. She forced me out of my comfort zone and made me take ballet lessons starting at age five. I cried every time she dropped me off and I know it must have been hard for her leave, but it helped me learn how to interact with other kids and work together with them. She knew what was best for me. My mom was there for every part of my life, even as I grew older. I absolutely believed everything my mom told me because I thought she knew everything. Some of her gems included, "Boogers turn to worms in your stomach" and "bubble gum sticks to your ribs if you swallow it." She meant well. I could always talk to her about 99% of the thoughts in my head. She is one of my best friends and I know that I can always count on her.
My sister-in-law is also a very dedicated mom. She had a part-time job until she had her daughter. Now she is a full-time mother, and she's very good at it. She keeps Lexi healthy and fed, and gets her out of the house for activities almost every day. Lexi is the happiest little girl, and it is all because of her mom. I love my brother, but he's at work a lot and so Lexi spends most of her time with her mom.
My friend has four daughters, and she is unable to work. She is in pain a lot of the time due to some medical problems, but she still manages to keep her girls healthy and fed and in school. Her situation is often difficult and precarious, but she hangs on and gets through every tough spot while trying to keep her kids' lives running as smooth as possible. Many women in her situation would have given up a long time ago, but she keeps going and doing the best she can. Why? Because of the fierce love she has for her daughters. That level of love and determination in the face of such major obstacles is an inspiration for all who know her.
I know from personal experience how hard it is to leave your baby and go to work, but some mothers do not have a choice. There are bills to be paid. These are also strong mothers, because although they must work, they always find time for their kids. I'm not suggesting every mom should stay at home, because I know that's impossible. I am JUST saying that women everywhere should be proud to say, "I'm just a mom."
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